Sovereignty is Abundance

Breaking free from scarcity mindset

Feb 12, 2025

Growing up, we had everything we could possibly need and then some. My parents were successful by most standards. We lived in a beautiful house in a safe neighborhood, took vacations that others might dream about, owned a cabin and a winter home, and I was involved in every extracurricular activity you could imagine.

But beneath all of that, there was an undercurrent we couldn’t ignore. A quiet, steady tension filled our home, never spoken, but always felt.

It was the scarcity mindset, and it crept into every part of our lives.

Even though we had more than enough, the message was clear: It’s never enough. My parents weren’t motivated by greed, they were motivated by fear.

Fear of losing everything.
Fear of falling behind.
Fear of not being enough.

No one ever said it out loud, but I learned early on that your worth was tied directly to what you achieved. No matter how much you had, it could disappear if you weren’t constantly working harder, pushing further, proving more.

What I didn’t realize at the time was that this mindset rooted in fear and scarcity wasn’t a tool, it was a prison.

And I was stuck inside.

How Scarcity Became My Blueprint

From a young age, I was taught to excel. Not just encouraged, expected. I believed that in order to be “enough,” I had to achieve more, do more, be more. I thought if I just kept moving, kept striving, I could escape that quiet feeling of unworthiness that lingered in the background.

In school, getting straight A’s wasn’t something to be celebrated, it was just the baseline. Fortunately, I loved learning, and I quickly figured out how to navigate the academic system. Good grades came naturally to me, and I used them as a shield, something to hide behind, for decades.

By the time I reached high school, I was juggling honors classes, extracurricular activities, and social roles like my life depended on it.

In many ways, I believed it did.

College was the obvious next step, but even that didn’t feel like enough. So, I pushed myself into law school, convinced that a prestigious degree would finally quiet that nagging voice in my head.

It didn’t.

The daily grind of legal work left me feeling empty and restless, ultimately leading to one of my longest Dark Nights of the Soul.

When I finally emerged, I kept going, enrolling in graduate school, hoping that this degree would finally make me feel whole. And for a little while, it did. Learning provided a temporary sense of purpose and direction.

But no matter how many degrees I earned or accolades I received, that quiet, persistent whisper remained:

You’re still not enough.

Facing the Truth

It wasn’t until my father took his own life that I was forced to confront the reality I had been avoiding for years.

In the heavy silence of grief, I found myself asking questions I hadn’t dared consider before. Questions like: If I have everything I thought I needed to feel worthy, why do I still feel empty? Is this really the life I want to live?

Do I want to end up like my father?

I remember one morning, in the long wake of his death, sitting alone in my kitchen. The sunlight poured through the windows, everything outside calm and peaceful. Inside, I was anything but.

For the first time in my life, there was nothing left to achieve. Nothing I needed to be striving towards. Instead of feeling relieved, I felt completely lost.

That’s when it hit me: Scarcity isn’t about what you don’t have—it’s about how you feel.

I had spent my life chasing achievements, thinking they would fill the emptiness. But scarcity wasn’t an external problem. It was a mindset, a belief system. And no amount of success could fix what was broken inside.

That realization changed everything.

Breaking Free from Scarcity

I began to understand how we are living in the War Matrix ~ a system built on fear, scarcity, and control. It’s a way of thinking that tells you you’re never enough, that you must always strive harder, achieve more, and prove your worth.

As I started to dismantle those beliefs, I discovered something different ~ a new way of living just waiting for my arrival.

I call it the Sovereignty Matrix.

The Sovereignty Matrix is about breaking free from the mindset of lack and stepping into your inherent worth. In this new framework, the story shifts. It’s no longer:

“You’re not enough.”
“There’s never enough to go around.”
“Life is a competition.”

Instead, it becomes:

“You are enough.”
“There is more than enough for everyone.”
“Life is a collaboration.”

The truth I uncovered was this: Sovereignty isn’t just about personal power ~ it’s the key to true abundance.

For years, I thought abundance meant having more ~ more money, more success, more things. I’ve come to realize that abundance isn’t about what you have, it’s about who you are.

Sovereignty is about reclaiming your inner authority. It’s recognizing that your worth doesn’t come from achievements, titles, or the approval of others. It comes from within.

When you live in sovereignty, you stop chasing external validation. Instead, you align your life with your own values, desires, and purpose.

And what’s really cool is that when you reclaim your sovereignty, abundance flows naturally.

When you’re no longer pouring energy into fear, comparison, and self-doubt, that energy is freed up for what really matters ~ your passions, your relationships, your growth.

Abundance isn’t something you chase. It’s something you allow.

When you let go of the scarcity mindset, you open yourself up to possibilities you never even realized were there. You start to see that abundance isn’t just about wealth or success ~ it’s about time, love, joy, creativity, and connection.

Scarcity feels like holding your breath, bracing yourself for life to disappoint you. Sovereignty feels like taking a deep breath and letting it out, knowing there’s always more ~ more opportunities, more love, more life.

What Sovereignty Looks Like

Letting go of scarcity isn’t easy. It had become part of who I was. I saw it in the smallest, most unexpected ways.

Like feeling guilty for taking a day off.
Like comparing my achievements to others, wondering if I was doing “enough.”
Like feeling anxious when I wasn’t being productive, as if rest was something I had to earn.

Breaking free from the War Matrix isn’t a one-time event. It’s a process, a daily practice of choosing sovereignty over scarcity.

Here’s what that looks like for me:

Rewriting My Internal Dialogue
Whenever I catch myself thinking, I’m not doing enough, I pause and ask, Is that really true?
Initially, it didn’t feel convincing. But over time, I replaced those thoughts with affirmations like I am enough exactly as I am. It felt uncomfortable at first, but with practice, it became my new normal.
Practicing Daily Gratitude
Scarcity focuses on what’s missing. Gratitude focuses on what’s already there. Every day, I write down three things I am grateful for ~ simple things like a warm cup of coffee, a kind word from a friend, or the feeling of the sun on my skin. Over time, this practice shifted my perspective, helping me see abundance everywhere.
Letting Go of Comparison
Scarcity taught me to see other people’s success as a threat. Sovereignty showed me that it’s not. I stopped comparing my journey to others and started celebrating their wins. Their success doesn’t take anything away from me, it adds to the richness of my life.
Embracing Rest and Joy
Scarcity told me rest was a luxury, something to be earned. Sovereignty taught me rest is essential. I make time for joy ~ reading for pleasure, taking walks, or simply sitting quietly. I’m learning to listen to my intuition, trusting that inner voice that had been drowned out by years of striving.

Sovereignty Is the Key to Abundance

When I started living from a place of sovereignty, everything in my life began to shift.

My relationships became deeper.
My work felt more meaningful.
And most importantly, I found a sense of peace I had never experienced before.

This is bigger than a personal transformation. When we break free from the chains of scarcity and step into sovereignty, we create a ripple effect that touches everyone around us.

We become living proof that life doesn’t have to be a constant struggle. That abundance isn’t just possible, it’s natural.

But here’s the thing: Sovereignty isn’t a destination. It’s a choice we make every day.

There are many moments when the old scarcity mindset creeps in, whispering that I need to do more, be more, prove more. But now, I recognize it for what it is, an old story I no longer have to believe.

And in those moments, I return to the truth: I am enough. You are enough. We are enough. There is enough.

From that place, life feels different. Challenges don’t disappear, but they no longer define me. I face them with curiosity instead of fear.I trust that there’s enough space, enough time, enough love ~ for all of us.

We’ve spent so long living under the illusion of scarcity that we’ve forgotten who we really are. We weren’t put here to struggle or to prove our worth.

We’re here to grow, to connect, to thrive.

The world won’t change overnight. But it is changing ~ one person at a time, one choice at a time. The more of us who remember that we are enough, the more we create a world where abundance isn’t the exception ~ it’s the norm.

I’m here to remind you: You don’t have to earn your worth. You already have it. You always did.

Thank you so much for reading. xo